Obviously this post is based on the Tyler Perry’s (movie) Why Did I Get Married?. My other half and I went to see his movie this past weekend and… whew… how amazing. Tyler did a wonderful job of depicting the lives of four married couples. He discussed everything from infidelity, careers, tragedy, parenting, and much more. If you haven't seen it yet... GO CHECK IT OUT! Extremely good movie! It gives a realistic view of marriage, from various angles. I will place a trailer of the movie below, but I will aim to use this post to discuss what marriage means to me.
Why Did I Get Married? (Check it out below)
Well… I too have caught the marriage bug! I am so ready to settle down… and I am sure that I have found my mate. He is talking about proposing at years end, and I am so gitty! I knew that he would be my husband the moment we met. I will admit… we did go through a few turbulent times in our relationship. When all was said and done we would always end up back with each other. He is truly my “bestest” friend in the whole wide world, and I wouldn’t trade our relationship for anything.
I guess what I would say to women out there that have hopes of one day pursuing the marriage road is…
Meet your best friend
Connect on a romantic level
Make sure the two are congruent
Be totally honest with one another (even when it may hurt)
If you are able to do this while being madly in love (happiness will come and go- the most important part will be that one or the other will lead you/them back to it when you get off track).
Get Married! Only if it fits both of you all’s fancy!
The End.
~marriagebeginseverything ~
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
Tuesday, October 30, 2007
Check Mate!
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I have to share an experience of mine, which has happened in the last 24 hours. Where do I start?
Well in May of 2006, while I was on my Hiatus … I spent a lot of time in seclusion, writing in my blog. I wrote about myself (trials, tribulations and good stuff about my personal life) and I also discussed the lives of those around me. I thought I was home free because I used code names for those whom I was talking in depth about.
Before I go any further, it is important to know that everything I write about is intended for the best. I would use personal situations of those around me (and myself) to let women who were going through similar situations know that they too could overcome what ever obstacles that they were facing in life. Da Hiatus also served as a draft for my book, that I am currently in the process of writing.
Getting you up to date…
I ran into an old buddy of mine around May 21st and (due to the fact we hadn’t seen each other (minus one time) in 3 years) we played catch up (over margaritas). I shared personal info with her about my life and what she had missed in the last three years and she did the same thing for me. She was going through a hard time in her relationship at the time and she shared with me (in detail) the details of her situation. In my personal opinion, I thought a lot of women could learn from her issue, so I posted about it on my blog. She had a unique last name, so I referred to her by it in the post. I had seen this person once in 3 yrs (at the time) so I figured it was anonymous enough. I wrote about the situation, gave encouraging words, and that was the end of that.
So I thought!
This brings us up to date. Yesterday I was checking email and I ran across a message from an unfamiliar name. When I checked it, the young lady introduced herself and stated that she knew the woman that I referred to in the post personally and she felt it was not right to post her personal information for the whole world to see.
This really threw me for a loop because I couldn’t remember the post as it had been over a year since I posted it and I have now created a totally new blog… Return to Radiance (YAY). So, I did have to do my research and pulled up the post.
Looking back I did put her business in the street, but my intentions were good. I wanted other women in her same situation to learn to embrace and love themselves, even if the people in their lives weren’t showing them the same. We have all put up with our own share of BS from the opposite (or same in some cases) sex. We are no better than her and that situation, as she is no better than us. We are actually the same! We as women are in this together and it is solely up to us to know and respect that. We also need to be here to support one another.
In closing I want to thank “Priceless” friend for calling me out on that. Check Mate Girlie! I love my blog and I get so used to being free with myself, I have to be mindful that it is not my place to be as FREE with info that people trust me with, even if I want to use it to encourage and inspire others.
Another apology goes out to “Bright Beauty” for being put on BLAST in a sense. Your business is yours. I have since removed the post from Da Hiatus and will never post about you again. Love you girl.
Whew!
That is through…
Now brace yourself for more rumblings from Rai’s life!
The End.
~whaddyaknow…checkmate!~
Well in May of 2006, while I was on my Hiatus … I spent a lot of time in seclusion, writing in my blog. I wrote about myself (trials, tribulations and good stuff about my personal life) and I also discussed the lives of those around me. I thought I was home free because I used code names for those whom I was talking in depth about.
Before I go any further, it is important to know that everything I write about is intended for the best. I would use personal situations of those around me (and myself) to let women who were going through similar situations know that they too could overcome what ever obstacles that they were facing in life. Da Hiatus also served as a draft for my book, that I am currently in the process of writing.
Getting you up to date…
I ran into an old buddy of mine around May 21st and (due to the fact we hadn’t seen each other (minus one time) in 3 years) we played catch up (over margaritas). I shared personal info with her about my life and what she had missed in the last three years and she did the same thing for me. She was going through a hard time in her relationship at the time and she shared with me (in detail) the details of her situation. In my personal opinion, I thought a lot of women could learn from her issue, so I posted about it on my blog. She had a unique last name, so I referred to her by it in the post. I had seen this person once in 3 yrs (at the time) so I figured it was anonymous enough. I wrote about the situation, gave encouraging words, and that was the end of that.
So I thought!
This brings us up to date. Yesterday I was checking email and I ran across a message from an unfamiliar name. When I checked it, the young lady introduced herself and stated that she knew the woman that I referred to in the post personally and she felt it was not right to post her personal information for the whole world to see.
This really threw me for a loop because I couldn’t remember the post as it had been over a year since I posted it and I have now created a totally new blog… Return to Radiance (YAY). So, I did have to do my research and pulled up the post.
Looking back I did put her business in the street, but my intentions were good. I wanted other women in her same situation to learn to embrace and love themselves, even if the people in their lives weren’t showing them the same. We have all put up with our own share of BS from the opposite (or same in some cases) sex. We are no better than her and that situation, as she is no better than us. We are actually the same! We as women are in this together and it is solely up to us to know and respect that. We also need to be here to support one another.
In closing I want to thank “Priceless” friend for calling me out on that. Check Mate Girlie! I love my blog and I get so used to being free with myself, I have to be mindful that it is not my place to be as FREE with info that people trust me with, even if I want to use it to encourage and inspire others.
Another apology goes out to “Bright Beauty” for being put on BLAST in a sense. Your business is yours. I have since removed the post from Da Hiatus and will never post about you again. Love you girl.
Whew!
That is through…
Now brace yourself for more rumblings from Rai’s life!
The End.
~whaddyaknow…checkmate!~
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
WHOA! Rai's Return!
I do apologize so deeply for my departure from Return to Radiance. The past month and a half has been quite eventful... to say the least.
I am currently going through a transition in my life and I had to take time out to deal with it. Not to mention, I had put on a whopping 10 lbs. in the course of the last couple of months. To say the least... I have been hard at work in the gym for the last 3 weeks attempting to shed these pounds.
I am putting my life back in order one step at a time. Ladies and Gents... Rai was falling A P A R T! I have since taken time to replenish my mind, body, and spirit. Boy! I feel good... Let's see... what have you all missed...
I rekindled the flame with my other half... you all experienced our escapades during "Da Hiatus". Our foundation was so intact, that it has kept us during all of that. I am not sure what the future holds but, it sure feels good to have my best friend back! I will admit that I felt pretty bad about playing with the heart of my admirer. It was totally unintentional.
Sunshine is enjoying his second month of Pre-K and I am so elated! He is really enjoying school, and I am so happy for him. He can fully write his name, numbers and alphabet! Little Mr. Smart can also read and write the following words; mom, dad, cat and dog. My baby can do this at the tender age of 4! I am too too proud.
I took a road trip home to Dallas this past weekend and had a BLAST!
Realistically there is too much info to cover in this one post, so I will save the rest for later. No worries though... I will began to post more. I missed you all!
The End.
~i'm bbbbbaaaaaaaaccck!~
I am currently going through a transition in my life and I had to take time out to deal with it. Not to mention, I had put on a whopping 10 lbs. in the course of the last couple of months. To say the least... I have been hard at work in the gym for the last 3 weeks attempting to shed these pounds.
I am putting my life back in order one step at a time. Ladies and Gents... Rai was falling A P A R T! I have since taken time to replenish my mind, body, and spirit. Boy! I feel good... Let's see... what have you all missed...
I rekindled the flame with my other half... you all experienced our escapades during "Da Hiatus". Our foundation was so intact, that it has kept us during all of that. I am not sure what the future holds but, it sure feels good to have my best friend back! I will admit that I felt pretty bad about playing with the heart of my admirer. It was totally unintentional.
Sunshine is enjoying his second month of Pre-K and I am so elated! He is really enjoying school, and I am so happy for him. He can fully write his name, numbers and alphabet! Little Mr. Smart can also read and write the following words; mom, dad, cat and dog. My baby can do this at the tender age of 4! I am too too proud.
I took a road trip home to Dallas this past weekend and had a BLAST!
Realistically there is too much info to cover in this one post, so I will save the rest for later. No worries though... I will began to post more. I missed you all!
The End.
~i'm bbbbbaaaaaaaaccck!~
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