I was chatting with a dear friend and fellow blogger of mine yesterday. She let the thoughts and opinions of others cause her to delete her entire blog. I had similar issues to deal with as well… with my “other half” back in Da Hiatus (my previous blog) days. He got really upset because I discussed intimate details about our relationship on MY blog.
I will be honest… there is a thin line between being opinionated and hurting the feelings of another. What it all boils down to…
Freedom to be YOU!
If someone is a true friend, you should be able to express your view of your dealings with him or her. I respect all of the people close to me, by not stating their “government” name on my blog. There goes the anonymity. What more is needed? Oooh… I see why celebrities oftentimes take a lot of heat. When ever you communicate to the masses about anything/one other then things directly pertaining to you, the door opens to people and their opinions.
The most important ideal in this whole situation is INTENT… your intent is all that matters. I am a brutally honest and up front person, but my intent is good. I simply deal with those around me as honestly as I possibly can. When asked a question (sometimes), my answer may not be what people want to hear, but it is how I truly feel. This tends to hurt the feelings of others (when presented in large doses). I know and understand this, so it has been my life’s work to balance being me all while incorporating a nicer delivery.
This whole blogging phenomenon is to give people a platform to express themselves… and whaddya know… those closest to us are attempting to cut that extremely short!
My Advice to Fellow Bloggers (as if you asked!):
Continue to express yourself! Be aware of the feelings of those closest to you, but ensure a form of anonymity. Best believe I have shared some private information about myself and those closest to me… the trick is to develop unique ways to convey it (via short stories, poems or taking the people away from the topic and discuss it in general). Always stay true to you.
My Advice to Friends of Fellow Bloggers:
Know and understand that things that happen with you and your friend will make it to their blog every now and again, and it is ok. As long as their intent is good and anonymity is there… don’t fret! Writers express themselves through word… it is ok. True friendship deserves honesty and freedom to be you.
Well… I think that is the end of my long spill. I guess this post is a GREAT example of my point. It was inspired by a real conversation and event that occurred recently in my life, and to think… I didn’t use any names… other than my own!
The End.
~thefreedomofmeisthefreedomtobe!~
I will be honest… there is a thin line between being opinionated and hurting the feelings of another. What it all boils down to…
Freedom to be YOU!
If someone is a true friend, you should be able to express your view of your dealings with him or her. I respect all of the people close to me, by not stating their “government” name on my blog. There goes the anonymity. What more is needed? Oooh… I see why celebrities oftentimes take a lot of heat. When ever you communicate to the masses about anything/one other then things directly pertaining to you, the door opens to people and their opinions.
The most important ideal in this whole situation is INTENT… your intent is all that matters. I am a brutally honest and up front person, but my intent is good. I simply deal with those around me as honestly as I possibly can. When asked a question (sometimes), my answer may not be what people want to hear, but it is how I truly feel. This tends to hurt the feelings of others (when presented in large doses). I know and understand this, so it has been my life’s work to balance being me all while incorporating a nicer delivery.
This whole blogging phenomenon is to give people a platform to express themselves… and whaddya know… those closest to us are attempting to cut that extremely short!
My Advice to Fellow Bloggers (as if you asked!):
Continue to express yourself! Be aware of the feelings of those closest to you, but ensure a form of anonymity. Best believe I have shared some private information about myself and those closest to me… the trick is to develop unique ways to convey it (via short stories, poems or taking the people away from the topic and discuss it in general). Always stay true to you.
My Advice to Friends of Fellow Bloggers:
Know and understand that things that happen with you and your friend will make it to their blog every now and again, and it is ok. As long as their intent is good and anonymity is there… don’t fret! Writers express themselves through word… it is ok. True friendship deserves honesty and freedom to be you.
Well… I think that is the end of my long spill. I guess this post is a GREAT example of my point. It was inspired by a real conversation and event that occurred recently in my life, and to think… I didn’t use any names… other than my own!
The End.
~thefreedomofmeisthefreedomtobe!~
2 comments:
good stuff! cant wait to hang out this weekend.
Like many others, I too have found a unique way to express myself that, for reasons of National security, I cannot do in my daily life. It's hard to sift the information, and it's surprisingly easy for a skilled secret agent to pull disparate pieces of information together and understand an entire situation. Therefore, and again for reasons of National security, I must still keep some things confidential.
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